I say yes, that is one of the essential functions of a healthy society. I think Billy Porter disagrees with me.
Obviously there has to be room for the oddball, the nonconformist, and the unconventional. But I don’t see that as being in conflict with the more general rule that convention is useful, and people should be steered towards it.
Convention is what makes us feel comfortable in the world.
If you’re sitting in a theater, and everyone is facing the screen, except the guy in front of you, who has turned around in his seat and is staring at you, that makes you feel uncomfortable. Conventions are what makes for a polite and harmonious society.
One of those conventions is that men don’t wear dresses.
There’s nothing inherently wrong with a man wearing a dress. Just as there’s nothing inherently wrong with someone turning around the wrong way in a theater. But respect for other people requires us to obey certain conventions, and efforts to brainwash children against that idea are more than misguided.
Porter said, “As a man, I really want to make a different kind of statement and show up in a way that could also be transformative, that could also be political.”
Fine. Be cutting edge at the Oscars. That’s where all that weird stuff is supposed to happen, because it’s basically a circus.
But when it comes to raising children, we want to teach them the conventions. If they want to be weird when they grow up, that’s their business. But they need to learn normal first.