An interesting perspective on feminism?
by Greg Krehbiel on 27 January 2013
Some dorky guy who’s been unsuccessful with the ladies decides to study “game theory” and learn how to pick up women.
First … a quick side note here for my female readers. Next time you’re tempted to think men are shallow, just read some stuff on how easy it is for these jerks to pick up women by playing silly tricks on them. Everybody’s shallow.
Anyway, I’m certainly not holding this guy out as some sort of oracle on sexual morality, and I think his lifestyle is creepy. Frankly, I think there should be laws against that sort of behavior — or at least no laws prohibiting fathers, brothers and husbands from dealing with reprobates … appropriately.
Still, there’s an interesting comment buried in this article.
“Going to an American club or bar is torturous compared to these Eastern European venues where girls put out warm vibes without getting their rocks off on rejecting men.”
I’ve never read Cosmo. I’ve never even opened one issue. Ever. But it seems to me the covers often have stories on “how to get him to commit.”
That’s always amused me. It’s like banging yourself in the head and complaining you have a headache. Free milk and a cow comes to mind, of course, but maybe there’s something just a little bit self-destructive about building your sense of self worth in attracting and then rejecting men.
-- 2013-01-27 » Greg Krehbiel
28 January 2013 @ 1:39 pm
That quote made me think of how I’ve noticed in modern Hollywood products, the frequent phenomenon of women irritably blowing off men who do something thoughtless or awkward and not giving them a chance to explain is depicted as the normal interaction between the sexes. Apparently the woman who is heard roaring is willing to sacrifice the potential of working things out and being happy, to copping a righteous attitude whenever there’s a misunderstanding or a misstep on the man’s part. I doubt real women act this way (I don’t know a lot of younger single women or see their interactions with men), but it feeds a certain attitude. This isn’t quite the same as attracting and then deliberately rejecting men, but I think it’s related — even when the woman feels some attraction in return, it’s more important to wield the power of punishing him for not responding correctly all the time, than to try to build a relationship.
28 January 2013 @ 1:45 pm
Pentamom: you say, “it’s more important to wield the power of punishing him for not responding correctly…”
Here’s my question: what is it that makes women the judge of what is correct and what is incorrect?
As the joke goes, if a man says something in the forest, and there is no woman there to hear him, is he still wrong?
28 January 2013 @ 10:33 pm
Dave, I guess that’s part of the power thing: she gets to be judge, jury, and executioner.